Christmas and January Networking For Jobs


Christmas has traditionally been a slower period in the world of recruitment. This due to the parties, lack of availability of hiring managers and those with one eye on the much needed break. Numerous companies go into wind down mode meaning recruitment can be pushed down the agenda.

January is also normally been a challenging month which typically begins with employees getting back up to speed, needing to get into the mindset to deliver on crucial tasks and priorities. It is also a month that has a focus on goal setting, planning and forecasting.

However much like the housing market last year the traditional seasonal patterns have been disrupted by COVID, market forces and the current pent-up demand.

A significant number of companies were still looking for talent for their businesses right up until the final days of December. I noticed a higher than normal number of contacts from my network for January posted status updates and have moved to new companies or taken on new positions this week.

At this time of the year, it is natural to feel a little tired/lethargic and want to take a rest from your job search for understandable reasons. However, there is a tremendous opportunity for jobseekers to capitalize on this period and to be on the radar of perspective employers. It’s a great period to reach out and network with previous colleagues, counterparts and build new relationships with perspective companies which you are interested in working for or collaborating with.

Careers advice firm, Careershifters.org suggest 70% of jobs are filled that are not advertised. The figure is similar to the 60% figure suggested by The Guardian. Unfortunately by not taking action you are highly likely to be missing out.

Jobseekers have the opportunity to have some fun, share some of the festive or New Year cheer and make references to previous times.

I hope you enjoy the following fireside chat which was organized by LHH one of the UK’s premier Out Placement specialists. I am joined by my fellow previous job seeker Keith Mabbitt and Kate Howlett. In a discussion around tactics, learnings and additionally methods to stay positive.

Over 4000 people have already viewed this video and have gained tips that have helped them on their journey. Feel free to comment or reach out to me if you have any questions.

All the best for 2022 and with your Job search!


Top Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work:

New Years Resolutions

At this time of year many of us will be evaluating our successes and challenges that we have navigated throughout 2021. People attempt to set new goals and objectives for the new year. Some of us are really disciplined and have developed great strategies. However, many will embark on these goals with great determination but within a few weeks into the new year, these goals will be pushed aside for a variety of reasons.

Based on my experience as a Life Coach, I hope the below will identify some of the reasons these resolutions and goals are left unobtained. Even if just a couple of the tips below are utilised, this will help you on the way to achieving some of your goals in 2022.

  1. Poorly framed goals that are structured in the negative
    • The chance of succeeding is significantly stronger by focusing on what we want to achieve in the positive rather than a goal phrased in the negative E.g. “I want to give up smoking” and “I want to lose weight”.
    • It would be better to rephrase this as,  “I want to focus on embarking on a healthy lifestyle for me and my family for 2022”
  2. Begin With The End in Mind and Visualization
    • What is it going to be like when I achieve this goal?
    • Why is this resolution important to me?
    • What will be my weekly and daily plan to achieve this objective?
    • What blockers are there I need to overcome; is this my husband or partner
    • What resources will I need?
    • If you can’t answer the above or crystalize a powerful vision of the future of attaining this goal, you will not have the energy to keep going when things go wrong as in all quests or journey to achieve a goal
  3. Eat That Frog- Brian Tracy
    • What is the hardest step I could take each day to hit my goal?
    • Choosing to do this and tackle part of the trickiest goal first thing each morning will give you the energy and momentum to achieve
  4. Little Rewards and Milestones
    • Those that have little rewards for the smaller milestones are more likely to keep going
    • Perhaps for every single cigarette box or capsule not smoked means a couple of quid saved in a jar for something positive
    • Tea cake reward for two pages written of your future number best seller
  5. Battle With The Inner Critic vs The Inner Coach
    • The mind can be for you or against you
    • Need to be aware of the conversations with yourself “You are not good enough”, “stay in your lane”,you have failed in the past you will fail again
    • These are a range of negative thoughts that can arise from conversations with yourself
    • Action illusion- lots of talk of doing and want to act but a lack of action
    • Fear of Failure – If I don’t try then I won’t fail and let myself or others down
    • I’ll do this goal when I feel better
    • Right feelings come after right actions; even a little step each day can help to create momentum
  6. Lack of Understanding of Stinky Kippers – Limited Beliefs – Kain Ramsey
    • Many are unaware of our hidden beliefs that are in the background subconsciously driving us daily
    • There are typically 15-20 stinky kippers/limited beliefs- some we can easily identify and others will take some discovery, deep thinking, questioning and possibly discovery or self-reflection with a coach to unearth and tackle further
    • These are often formed at the age of 4-11 based on life experiences or interactions with friends or family  
    • Takes 3-4 situations during this phase that form a belief that are buried without knowledge
    • Despite these being negative we will often fight to maintain these limitations subconsciously
    • These hidden chains will subconsciously pull you down
    • May be worth working with a life coach or deep thinking or evaluation exercises to flesh out these gremlins
  7. Birds of Feather – Lack of Accountability Partner
    • If you want to be successful in an area or achieve a goal it will help to have network of others that have successfully been on the journey and are successful positive forces – recommend by Les Brown and Brian Tracy
    • If you have a reference group that you lean on that doesn’t share a passion for personal improvement or endorse your goal, it’s likely your journey will become even more challenging
    • Having a coach, mate or colleague for a monthly or regular catch-up will give you more energy to hold you accountable giving you a cadence point
    • This needs to be someone that is empathic not sympathetic as this will help to hold you to account on the journey to achieving your goal
  8. Not being honest about your progress
    • Need to develop a mindset and to become brutally honest about your progress and actions each week
    • Many people often don’t like criticism as we don’t like to be wrong
    • To achieve our goals we need to be a little better at being able to objectively deal with the truth of our progress
    • Need to avoid becoming the BSE syndrome – Blame Someone Else – Paul McGee Sumo
  9. Dealing with Setbacks-Solution driven not problem focused
    • Simple equation in life that has been coined from the great book Man’s Search For Meaning
    • Situation + Response = Outcome vs Situation = Outcome
    • Many in life are unaware that there is always a small action in our control to tackle a bad situation. We always have some ability to control our response to our thoughts or unpredicted circumstance
    • What is this unexpected situation or setback asking of me rather than asking what am I asking of this situation?
  10. First 90 days
    • Repetition and continuous application for something to become a habit and become burned into our mindset
    • If you can get to 90 days, the chance of success improves and maintaining traction dramatically increases
  11. Re-assess goals
    • Often with slimmer’s, they have great initial goal and make solid progress but once their body adapts or gets to a point,  then it’s difficult to maintain the same rate of progress
    • This stage is vital to adapt fitness or goals to maintain momentum

Feel free to explore some of the authors, sources or feel free to reach out to me if you feel you need a coach or accountability partner to help achieving your goals for 2022.


Agile Career Podcast Recruitment

Agile-Podcast Recruitment


  • Agile Career Podcast Recruitment
  • My first recorded interview with Gunter Richter, Business Consulting Practice Head at Adatis and the owner of this excellent podcast series.
  • My episode focuses on my career changes from a Recruitment to People Team professional and tactics to ensure success.
  • Overview of the key stages of my career and development.

Detailed Summary

60 minute interview recorded with Gunter Richter – Owner of Agile Podcast. Going through my career and the choices I have made. The utilization of key skills and tactics to make these transitions. Covers my career from University, Hardware/Telephony Sales, Agency Recruitment, CIPD Studies and Inhouse Recruitment. More recently developing an interest in coaching, taking courses and becoming a practicing Life-Coach and Mentor.

Key Takeaways:
Be prepared and planned for chance meetings and networking opportunities.
Don’t underestimate the power of networking.
Seek first to understand and then be understood.
It is important to understand and demonstrate the difference between features and benefits.
Always keep your skills current.
Identify your limiting beliefs as the first step to overcome them.
Share your knowledge with others.
When looking for new roles, do your research and homework about these roles.
Network and connect with others in similar roles that you are looking for.
Be resilient because you may get turned down at some stage.
Plan and organize your day.
Practice gratitude and positive affirmations.
  1. There is no longer anything like “employed for life” and, whether by design or default, careers don’t often follow a straight line.
  2. Our environment is constantly changing, so how do we ensure that we have the necessary skills to deal with this constant change?
  3. The Agile Career Podcast is a great place with tools to take you on the journey from “employed for life” to “employable for life”. Gunter provides tips, insights, and strategies to help you build the transferable skills that you’ll need.

This article uses material from The Agile Career Podcast “AgileCareer Podcast”, which is released under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share-Alike License 3.0.


7 Habits Of Effective People


  • One of the greatest personal growth/development books of all time.
  • Produced by Steven Covey in 1989.
  • 7 basic habits to follow that are still relevant in business and relationships 32 years later in 2021.

Book Summary:

Focuses on the alignment to 7 powerful timeless habits: Be Proactive, Begin With The End In Mind, Put First Things First, Seek First To Understand, Think Win/Win, Synergy and Sharpen The Saw. Book focuses on the Character Ethic. Building and nurturing this in us to internally build a permanent set of values and characteristics. It can take a while to put these habits into action. But once these are engrained and implemented they are extremely powerful in the longer term. Very different than many other books from the late 80’s and 90’s which focus on more quicker to implement superficial techniques and faking it. These don’t identify, tackle the beliefs and poor programming that many people may internally have.

This article uses material from https://franklincovey.co.uk/the-7-habits-of-highly-effective-people/7 Habits of Effective People, which is released under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share-Alike License 3.0.


Man’s Search For Meaning


  • Best selling book by Dr. Viktor Frankl, an Austrian Jew and Psychiatrist.
  • Personal account of his incarceration and survival within a series of Nazi concentration camps.
  • Book provides some great lessons for life and how to develop an attitude to tackle life challenges.
  • Really good book for those going through a challenging time in their life and seeking perspective.


Dr. Viktor Frankl’s great book charting his incarceration and survival within a Nazi Jewish prisoner camp. A book that helps to demonstrate his use of Psychology, purpose focused mindset and asking himself what events are asking of himself on a daily basis. During his time in imprisonment he developed the mantra of being able to exercise control in his response to some of the most repugnant situations known to man. This led to him being able to maintain his purpose and freedom. Despite his liberty being taken away he was able to grow his freedom internally within his mind. To have greater intellectual vision and freedom than his Nazi capturers. 
  1. Viktor was the founder of Logotherapy (literally “healing through meaning”) a meaning-centered school of Psychotherapy.
  2. Considered the Third Viennese School of Psychotherapy. Following the theories developed by Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler.

This article uses material from the Wikibooks article “Mans Search For Meaning“, which is released under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share-Alike License 3.0.

The Three Perceptual Positions and Win/Win

Three Perceptual Positions:

The approach derives from the Neuro Linguistic Programming discipline. By implementing this approach it can help us work through tricky everyday issues, challenges or relationship matters.

Sadly, we are often taught in Western society within Education, Politics and Law that we must win the argument and focus on being right. This maybe the correct approach for solving a mathematics equation. However in reality there maybe many different perspectives and opinions that others hold. Life is often not black and white and there can be many nuances.  Just like at my dinner table with the Vaxers vs Anti Vaxers.

This is a method that can help you to develop better relationships and communications with others by seeking to understand. It will help to change your mindset and look at situations and scenarios from multiple perspectives. We need to shift our mindset from the perspective that listening to somebody’s viewpoint is the agreement of this. By showing respect and listening to this we have more chance of gaining the respect of the other person and helping to shift their paradigm when they finally pause and allow us to share our view.

The three perceptual positions are:

  1. To looking at the issue of debate or opportunity from your own perspective which is easiest of the three as this is the default position
  2. Is to change our perspective and look at the situation or challenge from the eyes or paradigm of the other person or organization – this will be more challenging to do
  3. This takes practice and centers on looking at the situation from a neutral position or imaging yourself as a fly on the wall observing the situation from both or a variety of perspectives which will take solitude, concentration and visualization

By going through these three positions, it will help you to understand the motivations and perspective of others. This will enable us to make more grounded considered decisions and taking more measured actions.

Win/Win Steven Covey’s classic habit:  

The Three Perceptual Positions approach can be intertwined with Steven Covey Win/Win Habit. In that it’s best in life that for the more significant matters of importance is for both parties to aim for solution or a decision in which both parties come away from the situation feeling that they have had their needs considered and met.

Sadly, in life many aim for Win/ Lose in which they win and the other party loses. This is ok in competitive team sports vs another team. However in most other situations this outcome could result with one party leaving the table disgruntled and in the longer term the relationship or outcome may not be concrete or sustainable.

The final scenario which is arguably the most least desired is Lose/Win or a martyrdom agreement. This can cause personal difficulty, suffering and is likely to generate a lot of potential moaning and frustration.   

I hope you find this blog and my video recorded last year helpful. Please feel free to comment or reach out to me if you have any questions.

Three Perceptual Positions and Win/Win

Circles Of Influence and 6 Morning Habits


  • Circles of Influence is adapted from Julian Rotter’s great work.
  • The more we focus on what we can control and influence daily the more empowered and positive focused we become.
  • 6 Morning Habits is based on Hal Elrod’s research based on successful business people and sports professionals.

Video Summary:

Locus of Control as a principle was originated by Julian Rotter in 1954. It considers the tendency of people to believe that control resides internally within them, or externally, with others or the situation. Note that, like other preferences, this is a spectrum. Some people have a wholly internal or external Locus of Control, but many will have some balance for both views, varying with situation.

6 Morning Habits are adapted from Hal Elrod’s work:

1. Commitment to some Yoga, meditation or stillness

2. 5-10 minutes each morning writing down our goals and objectives for the day

3. Chanting an affirmation to ourselves in the mirror on what our long term objectives and major weekly goals are reiterated each day

4. What are the top 5 most important things we need to do each day? 

5. Review of three things that went well the day before, some gratefulness on what’s good in our lives or achievements from day before. It’s often easy to lose sight of the good things if we are not reflective daily.

6. Some exercise for 15-20 minutes each day helps to keep us fit, increase our serotonin levels and improve our mood. Other benefits is that it helps to make us feel more in control and boost our confidence.

This article uses material from Locus of Control Julian Rotter which is released under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share-Alike License 3.0.

7 Questions To Help You Move On


  • These are simple questions to help move your mind to a positive objective state after dealing with a challenging moment.
  • Adapted from Paul McGee’s S.U.M.O book.

Video Summary:

The 7 Question Framework that can be used after an event or situation to help us to evaluate, make sense and positively move on from the event. This enables us to adapt, improve our mood, perception and grow.

This approach is adapted from the Albert Ellis’ ABC Model which is a major part of his Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). REBT served as a sort of precursor to cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). The ABC Model is now a treatment commonly used in CBT interventions.

This article uses material from S.U.M.O. Shut Up, Move On – S.U.M.O (thesumoguy.com) which is released under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share-Alike License 3.0.

Shut Up And Move On (S.U.M.O)


  • Contemporary book with humor, easily accessible personal growth and mentoring book written by Paul McGee from Manchester.
  • Focuses on 6 core/chapters and features some really easy to grasp visual principles.
  • A book that I have borrowed on a long term loan from my old C.O.O 🙂
  • Really useful for anyone needing to cultivate some positive change in their thinking, outlook and actions within their life.

Summary Of Chapters:

1. Change Your T-Shirt, adapting your attitude and taking responsibility for your response and results. Moving away from Blame Someone Else (B.S.E) thinking.

2. Beach-Ball, listening to others empathically and seeing their perspective before answering.

3. Fruity Thinking, positive thinking, internal questioning frameworks to mentally process and overcome life’s challenges.

4. Carpe-Diem/Learn-Latin, has a focus on tackling biggest challenges each day.

5. Hippo Time message is that it is ok to have down moments, but being aware of these moments. Not staying in this space, utilizing techniques to shift our mind and mood from these dark periods.

6. Ditch Doris Day/Que Sera Sera – establishing vision, visions and SMART goal setting.

This article uses material from S.U.M.O. Shut Up, Move On – SUMO (thesumoguy.com) which is released under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share-Alike License 3.0.